tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18893276170905778492024-03-14T03:43:15.653-05:00Lieck TripletsJacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.comBlogger405125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-75437120033848183822013-12-03T10:58:00.001-06:002013-12-03T11:11:27.258-06:00The Big Black Boot<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">About two weeks ago I had surgery on my right foot. If we are friends on facebook, you are very aware of this and my obnoxious black boot selfies. The recovery has been a little more difficult than I had expected. I can't drive and I must put on the boot anytime my foot touches the floor. It stinks and I really have grown to hate the big black boot. It puts a really damper on my life and many things I need to do or would just like to do. I have been shown so much love during this time with messages, food, PSLs (pumpkin spice lattes for those latte novices), and most importantly, chocolate. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">After the pain meds wore off and the complaining and winging (learned that word in Australia...they love it) began, I heard a small, sweet voice...</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">... and I would hear it again, whether real or imagined...</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"Momma, can you get (insert anything) for me", "Momma, I need to go to the bathroom", "Momma, I want to help you. Can you help me help you" (yes, she really says that or something close to that).</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That small voice that wants so much to be independent but instead has to rely on a walker, wheelchair and too often the kindness of others. AND with no complaining or whinging and often with a smile or something nice to say she gets through her day the best she can.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That sweet voice is a reminder that God intends for it not to be about us but about Him and others. That I am able so that that I can help the disabled...I am blessed so that I can bless others. I have been placed in a different pair of shoes with a new set of eyes. Yes, it's temporary and I know the boot will go away and I will be self-sufficient again, but there are so many that need to be shown love and acceptance, kindness and patience. So, I'm sure you will still hear me complain sometime about the big black boot and other things over the next few weeks but I am thankful for the big black boot and what it has taught me. I am humbled. Thank you God for the reminder.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I think sometimes, in our irreverence, God has to thump us on the head (my dad used to do that when we acted up in church) or kick us in the bottom with a big black boot. Go be kind to someone today. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"Hello, yes, I'm calling about my daughter. I would like her to not use her walker and wheelchair as much as she has been. She is doing really well with her walking and I'm so proud of her."</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"Yes she can use her pink canes but her walking is getting so much better and I would like her to walk on her own as much as possible."</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The talking begins again but I'm lost in the first part of the conversation.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You are probably thinking that is me on the phone. That is my part of a telephone conversation being overheard. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It's not me. It's Grace. She is on "the phone" and in her lap sits one of her daughters. The one that is the most like her. The one she takes everywhere. The one she talks about the most. The one who has had surgery and therapy. The one that is sometimes disobedient and gives her brothers and sisters a hard time (Grace has 6 kids).</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> The one that needs her the most.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The one that has a really good mommy.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-14432122424353844752013-10-19T15:46:00.000-05:002013-10-19T15:46:34.627-05:00Just a Little Shopping<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I hate shopping. Oh I like new things, but I hate picking them out. I'm so indecisive. And when I do make a decision, I worry that I spent too much or that it's the wrong choice. Trying to putting together clothes for our upcoming family photos has given me many sleepless nights and possibly a few ulcers. I have purchased and returned so many pairs of shoes that Zappo's most likely has my photo and credit card number posted in their warehouse under the caption "BEWARE, this lady will order six pair of shoes and return five, and three dresses and return two, over and over and over!!" In my defense, I have kept four of the last ten pairs I have ordered. Oh it's bad...and I've just been talking about shopping for my kids' clothes...shopping for myself is whole different kind of madness. Big items? Shopping for those sends me into a comatose state for a few days. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">But those things are wants and I will be focusing more on the needs for now (at least I consider them needs for special needs). Many of these things I've refused to even think about, but now we must...it's time, there's a need...and none are inexpensive. I'll be shopping for...</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Grace is doing really well with her walker but it does limit in some in staying up with her classmates. She has a manual wheelchair but can't move it very effectively either. Although I prefer her to use her walker as much as possible, it is very important that she doesn't miss out on school activities because she can't get there in time. Although we are about two years away from insurance paying for another wheelchair (they will only do it about every five years), it is probably time to start deciding what we want and getting the process started. </span></div>
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<br />Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-43642568939338172472013-09-18T09:28:00.000-05:002013-09-18T09:36:14.784-05:00Amazing and Wonderful and Full of Surprises<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Life is amazing and wonderful and God puts amazing and wonderful people in our lives to help us remember that. Yesterday afternoon I spent some time and some coffee with a man and his wife. This man is 71 years old and has cerebral palsy. He also has a masters degree in computer science, went to Oklahoma State University (my family will be excited about that) and Purdue University, has two children, worked for TI for almost 30 years and best of all, loves God and wants to share his story with anyone that wants to listen. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We spent about an hour together. He told me about his life and teared up a few times when talking about his mother and how she never gave up on him and never let anyone tell him he couldn't do something. I love the story about his mother calling the school and insisting he be permitted to take drivers' education when they said he would not be able to drive. He was allowed to take the class and got his driver's license! And there was the story of the high school counselor that said he shouldn't go to college because he wouldn't be able to do it and how he now wishes he had gone back to this counselor and showed her his college degrees. I love his advice on assessing Grace's talents and optimizing them. I covet his advice on NEVER letting anyone limit her abilities.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I was introduced to this man by a friend that heard his testimony at her church. What I didn't know is that I had actually seen this man before in 2011 <a href="http://lieck3.blogspot.com/2011/08/hi-do-you-have-cp-can-we-talk-about-it.html">here</a>!!! Thank you my friend for bringing this man back into my life and thank you God that life is so amazing and wonderful and full of surprises. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Next time I get to talk with my new friend, I will take a photo of us to share and I hope that he and Grace get to met very soon. </span><br />
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WOW...yes I put it out there...where is the love...the unconditional love?<br />
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Have you heard of Wright's Law? I keep this video on hand when I need reminder of "why", "what it's all about" and "where is the love". It is about 11 minutes long but I PROMISE it is SO worth it. <br />
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Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-13989462672471126552013-05-24T08:46:00.002-05:002013-05-24T08:47:01.615-05:00Stop Complaining and Just Keep TryingGrace begins an intensive therapy session next week. It's 3 hours a day, every day for 3 weeks. It is one of the best things she does to get stronger.<br />
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However, it's not always easy on our family. We drive back and forth to Dallas every day. I have to juggle our schedule...make provisions for Mack and Sophia. Grace is tired and grumpy. I am tired and grumpy. <br />
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I have been complaining a lot lately, thinking about how tired and stressed I will be over the next 3 weeks...how thin my patience becomes.<br />
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This morning the following video popped up on facebook from Grace's physical therapist. I am ashamed. I am thankful. So...I'm going to stop complaining and just keep trying...because I know that is what Grace is going to do.<br />
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<br />Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-29493853774697000922013-05-22T07:27:00.002-05:002013-05-22T08:04:50.916-05:00Just Another DreamI'm a dreamer. Literally. I dream very vividly. Sometimes there are nightmares but most often just puzzling events that stay with me much of the day. I had such a dream last night.<br />
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In this dream I was back in my twenties, unmarried and no kids, but there was Grace. Everywhere I went I was trying to bring her along...make her comfortable in whatever situation we were in. How was she there? Will she always be there? What does this mean?<br />
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Recently I was having dinner with a friend and our conversation turned to marriage and the impact of kids on a marriage, the impact of an empty nest on a marriage. My friend suggested that I may never truly have an empty nest...Grace may always be living with us. <br />
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Now while I'll admit that has crossed my mind, I have always imagined that Grace will go to college, live on her own, get married and have her own kids one day. We (Grace and I) even talk about that for her future. I know none of this will be easy and I think of all that would have to happen for her to "go away" to college but I think of it as a possibility...a probability. <br />
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I may be in denial, because I can go there, but I am hopeful. I have dreams. <br />
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<i>For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. II Timothy 1:7</i>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-90260235917991907652013-04-26T15:18:00.001-05:002013-04-26T15:18:22.839-05:00SevenSeven. I've always liked the number 7. What's not to like? You have...Seven Wonders of the World, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, The Seventh Day of Creation, Seven Jeans, Seven Layer Dip, and my birthday's on the 7th. Seven was the magic number. (I guess there are the 7 deadly sins but that's another post.) <br />
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I've always had in my mind that seven would be THE age. During her seventh year Grace would walk. Oh I wasn't expecting full-on wind sprints, but I was convinced she would be able to walk only with a little help from her canes. We had done everything right. Therapies, conductive education, surgeries, botox, e-stim, gyrostim and more therapies (we even did craniosacral...not a fan) and I can probably tell you about every neuro-specialist in the DFW area. You name it, we have done it or at least researched it extensively. We didn't have anything in writing from "an expert", but it had been hinted that seven might be the time and I took that suggestion and held on tightly. <br />
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Well Grace is seven, actually almost seven 3/4. She will be eight in August. Seven has been good in so many ways...a great year a school, new friends, song leader at church, and much more. But I have to admit I've had a bit of wind taken out of my sail and I've had to be more realistic about things. I've had to come to terms that there was never really a magic number and that walking may never really happen. However, I will never stop hoping... and praying...maybe the number is 8.<br />
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I have had several email messages lately from people who have found my blog and my old (very old) entries regarding PERCS, SDR, therapies, and just lamenting. Some want specifics on procedures and outcomes, and others just have had a CP diagnosis for their child and just need to reach out to someone that understands. Because you see, while there are so many that don't understand, there are some of us that do. Sometimes it just takes a little vulnerability and nothing has made me more vulnerable than the past 7 years. <br />
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So, as I attempt to come back to blogging, I want to focus on gratitude. My focus this morning was changed from lamentations to thankfulness. Thank you God for putting the sermon Ross spoke out before me when I really needed it..."a focus on thanksgiving pushes out complaining...brings us a steadfastness of hope...a perseverance no matter what". My perseverance was faltering at best. I had lost hope and focus and needed a re-start. <br />
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So today I am thankful, and I have so much to be thankful for.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23px;"><i>Shout joyfully to the LORD, all the earth. Serve the LORD with gladness; Come before Him with joyful singing. Know that the LORD Himself is God; It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves; We are His people and the sheep of His pasture. Enter His gates with thanksgiving, And His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him; bless His name. For the LORD is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting, And His faithfulness to all generations.</i></span><br />
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This morning as Grace and I waited outside the school entrance for her aide to walk her into the classroom, we chatted as usual. The conversation was typical until it took a turn that I wasn't ready for...<br />
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Grace: "Mom, you know there are other people that have cerebral palsy." <br />
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Me: "Grace, what did you say?" (I was pretty sure I hadn't heard correctly)<br />
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Grace: "Mom, there are other people that have cerebral palsy."<br />
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Me: "Yes, you are correct. There are many others that have cerebral palsy."<br />
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Grace: "Just like I have cerebral palsy."<br />
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Me: "Yes, there are others like you that have cerebral palsy."<br />
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As you can see, I wasn't sure where to go with this conversation. I was starting to panic. Grace and I had talked about her condition but mainly in the context of therapies, surgeries, etc. I was going to let her lead me to THAT conversation. The WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME...the WHY ME...THAT conversation. I was waiting until she was ready...and maybe until I was ready.<br />
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We were interrupted by Grace's aide opening the door so we weren't able to continue. <br />
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Where was Grace going with this conversation? Had someone been talking with her about this? What should I say? <br />
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Grace's aide says they have not talked about this (although I wouldn't mind if they had) and she hasn't heard anyone else having this type of discussion with Grace.<br />
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Then it hit me. We had a visit yesterday to the Scottish Rite Mobility Clinic. She saw doctors, nurses, therapists...also other children with cerebral palsy. Did she not know? Did she think she was the only one? There are others. We are not alone. <br />
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<br />Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-81202916254397504042012-10-03T09:23:00.003-05:002012-10-03T09:23:58.786-05:00What Might Have BeenThere is a song by Little Texas from the 90's that keeps popping in my head lately. The title of the song is What Might Have Been. If you listen closely to the words, they don't really apply to my situation but I often think of what might have been.<br />
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When Abe and I were thinking of starting a family we discussed the possibility of having a child with special needs and what that would look like. We only had the conversation once because, well, it would never really happen. And of course, we said and we meant, we would that child endlessly no matter what. <br />
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So why the questioning lately? I really try not to go there. It is not constructive and as the saying goes, "comparison is the thief or joy", and so are regrets. But I have to admit I have been thinking...what if Grace could walk? What if we didn't have to spend so much time and money on therapies and equipment? What if our lives were typical? <br />
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I know these feelings will pass and that I will be able to focus more on the gifts and joy that Grace brings to our lives but for now...today...what might have been?<br />
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<b><i>Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12</i></b><br />
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The picture above is Grace at intensive therapy with her wonderful therapist Lissa, one of the joys in our lives. Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-77314322802728923162012-07-06T11:35:00.002-05:002012-07-06T11:40:53.393-05:00FutureLand<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I saw Grace last week at DisneyWorld. Of course you did, you are thinking, she was with you the whole time. This was Grace in the future. Ironically enough, she was in FutureLand standing right in front of us to ride Space Mountain. We were in the Fast Pass or "those with special needs" line. She was in her early twenties and had long curly blond hair. She was in a wheelchair much like Graces, only bigger. Next to her was a young man in his twenties also. As the Space Mountain car came to a stop for us to board, the man gently picked up the woman and placed her in the seat. She was all smiles...just like my Grace. I got to see her one more time as she disembarked from the car, with the man's assistance. She was laughing and he said "See I told you it would be fun!" I was mesmerized. I wanted to ask her name, her diagnose, her life. There she was...it was Grace in her early twenties....and she was happy.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-33177657005185052332011-09-01T20:22:00.003-05:002011-09-13T19:49:22.843-05:00There's Freedom in ReleaseI recently notice a friend's facebook status update "There's freedom in release...". This friend has a child with special needs and although she didn't specify the situation my mind could only imagine the different possible things that she may have had to let go...dreams, expectations, a fight for inclusion, or maybe it was not even related to her child but something personal. Whatever the situation, her update made me think specifically of the dreams and desires for my child I've had to release. I have to let them go (kicking and screaming) and start revealing in the possibilities. <br />
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Grace has been taking piano lessons since last October. Because of the affects of cerebral palsy in her upper body, her arms, hands, and fingers are affected. Not severely, but her movement is limited. I had been searching for something that she could get involved in...something that was not therapy related. We have a piano (I play), she loves music...then piano it is. I had this vision of her walking up to the piano and changing people perceptions they had formed of her because she has CP as she begins to play beautiful music. (Honestly I don't know if this would be her dream) She has enjoyed her classes which have mainly been learning music theory. She has yet to play anything recognizable or even play using her entire hand. We had taken the summer off from piano lessons and I had decided to start up again. This time she and Sophia would be taking from the same teacher, back to back lessons. <br />
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As I sat through her lesson this week, as hard as I fought it, I realized that this was not the time, and it may never be the time for her to take piano lessons. It's just to hard right now. She can tell you the beats to each note and tell you what a treble clef looks like, but she can't make her hands move along the keyboard. It has also become more difficult as I watch Sophia excel and Grace barely able to peck out middle C. So as I drove home from piano lessons, near tears, I let it go...we would take Grace out of piano lessons. Now this doesn't mean she can't try again later but for now this is not her best use of time or our best use of resources for her. <br />
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I've struggled with the decision but it's finally made and there's freedom in release. I'm letting go of this dream...for now.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-45335783859624194642011-08-10T14:18:00.000-05:002011-08-10T14:18:26.689-05:00Hi, Do you have CP? Can we talk about it?Through our various therapies, support groups, etc, we know several children with varying degrees of cerebral palsy. All an inspiration. However, we don't know, personally know, any adults with cerebral palsy. I often think about how Grace will be when she grows up and how I have no real personal idea...no one I can call and ask "so what is it like to be an adult with CP?". <br />
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About a month ago, me and the kids were at the library, Grace walking with her walker. As we were leaving a man walks up to us. From the his unusual gait, I assumed he had cerebral palsy.<br />
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Man: Hi! "Does she have cerebral palsy?" (Points at Grace)<br />
Me: "Yes, she does." (Trying to guide her out the door and up the ramp)<br />
Man: "She looks great! Don't let anyone ever tell you she can't do anything." (his speech affected by CP)<br />
Me: "Thanks so much! We won't." (a little distracted by Sophia questioning his unusual speech...that is a discussion for later)<br />
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He then walks to his car parked next to ours in handicapped parking, gets in, and drives off. I was so touched that he would stop and talk with us. It felt kind of like I had gotten a pat on the back and an "everything will be okay".<br />
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If I didn't have my three with me (and again Sophia questions), I probably would have ran after him and asked if I could buy him a coffee and pick his brain. Hopefully next time I will be better prepared.<br />
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Yesterday while at the grocery store, looking for an open register, a woman waved me over saying "Ma'am, I can get you right here." She then turned to walk to the register. There it was...the unusual gait! Did she have cerebral palsy? Can I ask her about? Will she be offended? I stood there very conflicted about what to do as she ran my grocery items across the scanner. I didn't ask. I was too afraid. Of what...what would she say...would she want to talk with me about it? Will Grace get those questions...or just looks of sympathy or even disgust at times. <br />
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Maybe I'll get another chance. What should I do? What would you do?<br />
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Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-56291184098157222422011-08-05T15:52:00.001-05:002011-08-05T15:54:04.247-05:00Talkin' about Walkin'Since we have been home from St. Louis, I have had so many questions from friends and family about Grace's mood, behavior, feelings, etc since the surgery. <i>"What does she think about the surgery?" "Does she say her body feels different to her?" "Is she upset that she can't get around as well as she could before the surgery?" "How does she feel about what is happening?" </i>etc, etc.<br />
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And the answers are...I don't know. She doesn't talk about any of this...at least with me. I have explained to her, both before and after the surgery, what was going to happen and why we were doing this. I have asked her many times about how she feels about having the surgery...does her body feel different, does she understand why she had the surgery, does she have any questionas, and on and on. No response, or at least no direct response to my questions. I'm not sure how to feels about what she has gone through because she has a great attitude, like she always did before, and works really hard during her physical therapy (as long as it is not me trying to get her to do it) and generally seems like her old self...just physically weaker. And physically she is doing much better than we had thought at only 1 1/2 weeks out of surgery. <br />
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I would be interested to know what types of interactions other moms of children with special needs have when there is some kind of physical change like we had. What am I supposed to think? She is not talking about walking.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-20674547341924292162011-08-01T16:59:00.000-05:002011-08-01T16:59:22.660-05:00Regrets??This morning, our first morning back from Grace's rhizotomy in St Louis, I immediately starting Grace's stretching and strengthening routine and I was immediately frustrated...she is so weak. Of course she is, you are probably thinking, she just had a major surgery!! Now, it's not that I'm typically an instant gratification kind of girl but when will the "miracles" we were promised begin (again no patience). Part of the problem is the "no regrets" policy I have tried to follow during this journey with three very premature babies.<br />
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Once the decision was made to continue with the surgery, I was 100% (okay really 99%) sure the SDR was the right thing to do, but there is always that .01% or 1% doubt factor...isn't there. My doubts were increased a small percentage about a month ago when we went for a routine check-up with our neurologist in Dallas. I had not told him we were considering the SDR until that visit. He is not a big fan of the selective dorsal rhizotomy. I don't believe he has seen that many patients who have had SDR (both before and after) but he didn't think that removing the spasticity would help Grace walk..."most CP kids need the spasticity to walk" was his response. I explained to him that we had been considering this procedure for about 3 years, had done our research, and had talked to several parents of children who had the rhizotomy. None of these parents have had any regrets. Dr. X then responded (and I paraphrase) "You will never hear a parent say they regret making such a big decision for their child. They don't ever want to feel they have done the wrong thing for them." I was speechless...but REALLY?! Do we become so brainwashed or narcissistic to think that every decision we make for our child is the right one? Do we really never make any mistakes with respects to our children?<br />
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Have we made a mistake? I don't think so at this point and can't really know until we are at least six months out. So, when you ask me at that point what will I say and will you believe me?Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-37090298159673604072011-07-29T16:02:00.000-05:002011-07-29T16:02:45.510-05:00Day 3 Post SurgeryThere wasn't much to report days 1 and 2 after Grace's SDR. Just lots of sleep and pain management with a little bit of whininess because she couldn't get out of bed and had to lie completely flat. Pretty much what we were told to expect. One thing, however I did not expect was the sense of peace that I had about what my daughter had just gone through. Although peaceful, I did feel a bit uncomfortable about this calmness seeing that I have spent the past few months sleepless, overly fretting causing serious chest pains and in a continual search for validation that a trip to St. Louis would be life changing for my daughter...in a good way. There were lots of conversations with God and second guessing when Grace's health would fluctuate or she just didn't seem herself. But as we loaded the van for our journey, I begin to find....well, the only way to describe it...peace. <em>Pour out your heart like water before the face of the Lord. Lift your hands toward Him for the life of your young children. Lamentations 2:19</em><br />
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Now there is no way of knowing whether this has been the best decision of Grace's life on day 3 of post surgery, but I do know as the physical therapist moved Grace's feet and legs in ways that were never possible before, I was near tears and crying out in thanksgiving to our God, who has the ultimate control (how I somehow manage to forget this sometimes if beyond me). There is so much work ahead of her (and us) but I truly now feel where we had once felt stalled in her progress, we have given Grace a chance to move forward. A bit stressed about what is involved once we get home but SO excited for the possibilities. <em>I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13</em><br />
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ps...wanted to post some cute pics of Grace up and about but can't figure out how to get them from the camera on my iphone to my email to blogger. sighJacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-68470508765023423232011-07-27T09:43:00.002-05:002011-07-27T12:04:49.541-05:00And From St LouisI've been absent for quite a while. Many times thinking I need to get back to blogging but often too exhausted after the kids get to bed to form coherent thoughts. There has, obviously, been a lot going on and I will update you on some of the "other stuff" later, but right now I want to tell you about St Louis.<br />
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For the past three years the words "selective dorsal rhizotomy" or "SDR" has been in the back of my mind, resurfacing occasionally. Three years ago we had decided that SDR was not where we wanted to go at that time but knew it would be something to reconsider later. Well, it's later and we are in St Louis. Why St Louis? After doing much research and holding many conversations with doctors and other parents and fervent prayer, we decided that we wanted to put our daughter in the very capable hands of Dr. Park at St. Louis Children's Hospital. Although SDR is performed in other hospital (including one in Dallas), we wanted an expert...the doctor who has performed over 2,000 of these "permanent" spinal procedures. <br />
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What is SDR? Because any explanation I could provide would be extremely simplistic, I will direct you to very thorough and detailed information provided by St. Louis Children's Hospital - <a href="http://www.stlouischildrens.org/content/medservices/AboutSelectiveDorsalRhizotomy.htm">About Selective Dorsal Rhizotomy</a>. In VERY simple terms this procedure involves cutting the spastic nerves thereby eliminating the spasticity that limits much of Grace's movement. This procedure involves exposing these nerves at the spinal cord and permanently removing any connection. Pretty scary, if you ask me.<br />
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So...how will this help Grace? Our hope is that by removing the spasticity, Grace will eventually be able to walk independently, as well as eliminate any further orthopedic type surgeries that are often required because the spasticity can cause bones, etc to form incorrectly. (again see the hospital's explanation before I start sounding really stupid)<br />
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The surgery was performed yesterday (Tuesday) and she is currently in the PICU recovering on strong pain medication and valium (for muscle spasms) and we will be moved to a regular room today. She will get out of bed briefly tomorrow and then will have physical therapy on Friday and Saturday before she is released on Sunday. THEN THE REAL WORK BEGINS!!! The surgery is not a quick fix. It must be followed by strenuous physical therapy. We basically need to now strengthen and teach Grace to use the muscles previously under utilized due to the spasticity. <br />
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I had never been to St. Louis before and never envisioned seeing the Arch under these circumstances, but I'm so thankful that we are here and that we are doing everything we can to help Grace become independent. Have we made the right decision? Only time will tell.<br />
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Updates to follow which will include before and after. (btw...we can move her feet and legs so much easier now...it's amazing)Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-84664429260462102492011-02-01T11:04:00.000-06:002011-02-01T11:04:15.852-06:00Have You Heard?<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">I've been absent for a while....busy, unfocused, or really just not wanting to write it all down. Oh don't get me wrong, it really hasn't all been that bad...just a little overwhelming at times. </span></b></span></span><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/TUg8jBA9qgI/AAAAAAAACCs/tZmSIcEey7Y/s1600/tn-3.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/TUg8jBA9qgI/AAAAAAAACCs/tZmSIcEey7Y/s1600/tn-3.jpeg" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">In Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) this year, we are studying the book of Isaiah. I was really excited to begin this study because I love the prophecy and history. What I didn't think about was that God would remind me through this study just how great, powerful and loving He is. He has it all under control and I am so thankful because I sure don't.</span></b></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><strong>"Have you never heard?<br />
Have you never understood?<br />
The Lord is the everlasting God,<br />
the Creator of all the earth.<br />
He never grows weak or weary.<br />
No one can measure the depths of his understanding.<br />
He gives power to the weak<br />
and strength to the powerless.<br />
Even youths will become weak and tired,<br />
and young men will fall in exhaustion"<br />
Isaiah 40:28-30</strong></span>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-14352568998929234852010-10-22T15:01:00.000-05:002010-10-22T15:01:45.752-05:00Just Another Weird Dream.A few nights ago I had a very unsettling dream. Actually I have quite a few of those. In this dream I was alone with my children and had to find a new place to live. As I am searching for a new home, I notice I only have Mack and Sophia with me. Grace was not there. We look at several places always keeping in mind that we had special circumstances and needed accessibility. But Grace was not there. <br />
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I then realize that I have left Grace at home all alone. We get home and Grace is there. She's okay and has managed to work her way across the floor. Why did I leave her? Why was I looking for a new place to live?<br />
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I told a friend, who knows me really well, about this dream. She said that it included many of my fears...being alone and leaving Grace alone and not having anyone to care for her. What do you think? I hate these dreams.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-82201590752834273642010-10-12T16:00:00.001-05:002010-10-12T16:03:48.953-05:00My StatusMy kids are now 5 years old. My 5 year old daughter was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at about 18 months of age...3 1/2 years ago. In those 3 1/2 years there have been tears but more than that, there has been a focus to help my daughter any way I could. Therefore, the drive outweighed, and more times than not. overcame the tears and weariness. I felt and appeared strong. I was focused. I was capable. I was ready for anything.<br />
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What has happened over the past month...........<br />
The tears come more readily and I often have to fight them off in public.<br />
It takes me longer to make phone calls to find specialists, therapists, doctors, etc.<br />
I don't all friends back.<br />
I don't want to help with sit-ups and bridges...her many exercises.<br />
I don't feel strong. I just feel tired. I feel weary. I don't want to smile through it all. I want to scream "my daughter has a disability and I don't know what to do anymore."<br />
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What is going to happen?<br />
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It will all come back...the drive, the focus, the answers. I know...I hope. But for now...I'll just get by and ask my Father for a lot of help.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-473966916992577302010-08-23T09:35:00.000-05:002010-08-23T09:35:06.517-05:00Riding the Short Bus<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/THKGxgIFHCI/AAAAAAAACCY/q4nRt6ipOgE/s1600/shortbus.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/THKGxgIFHCI/AAAAAAAACCY/q4nRt6ipOgE/s320/shortbus.jpg" /></a></div><br />
A long time ago, when I was in school, I remember other kids saying things like "That kid is so (insert derogatory adjective), he rides the short bus." or "I bet he/she rides the short bus." Since I grew up in a very small town, there were many of us who rode a short bus to school or to athletic events, but I knew that there was something no so great about "riding the short bus" when used in that context and that is was said in a mean-spirited way. However, I wasn't exactly sure why people associated mental or physical disabilities with a bus size. <br />
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</div><div>Well, now that I'm grown up, my daughter rides the short bus. My daughter has a disability. She has to have someone help her on and off the bus. Every other child on the bus also has some type of disability (physical or otherwise). It makes me wonder if my daughter will now be made fun of because she really does ride the short bus. I think I hate the short bus, but I love the kids who ride it.</div>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-54522005837120764932010-08-17T21:59:00.004-05:002010-08-18T07:28:59.221-05:00She's Not Normal"You know, I think you should just treat her like a normal child." is said<br />
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</div><div>"Well, I'm sure you're right. I really try to do that." is the reply.</div><div><br />
</div><div>BUT...what I really want to say is...</div><div><br />
</div><div>"So, you think I should treat my child with cerebral palsy like a normal child, because your experience with three "typical" children gives you enough knowledge to be an expert in the area of special needs. If she was a normal child then, we wouldn't have therapy four times a week and praying we can pay for it all. Instead we would have soccer, baseball and ballet to worry about. If she was normal, I wouldn't still be trying to potty train my 5 year old child and have boxes of pull-ups in the closet. If she was normal, I wouldn't be spending time and a lot of money to get the cutest shoes I can find, that will fit over AFOs. If she was normal, we wouldn't be spending time looking for just the right color for the wheelchair so that maybe her friends might think it is just a little bit cool and not just weird. If she was normal, my back wouldn't ache all the time because I wouldn't have to lift her and hold her and try to position her so that she can have a semi-normal experience with her siblings and peers. If she was normal, maybe you would treat her that way."</div><div><br />
</div><div>Thanks! I needed that!</div>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-35594236467506496762010-08-12T11:58:00.004-05:002010-08-13T14:38:23.638-05:00Helpless<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/TGWfIYu6u7I/AAAAAAAACCQ/iQfK0Ip-2Uc/s1600/IMG_0424.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 312px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_mR_Yzsyian8/TGWfIYu6u7I/AAAAAAAACCQ/iQfK0Ip-2Uc/s400/IMG_0424.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5504981085957307314" /></a><br />Yesterday we (the trips and I) went to the <a href="http://www.dwazoo.com/d/">Dallas World Aquarium</a> with some friends. If you haven't been, it is really worth the trip. I bit expensive for my taste but really well done. <div><br /></div><div>As we started walking through the exhibits, I noticed Grace wasn't herself. This was our first outing in her new wheelchair. She wasn't talking, pointing or even really looking around at the animals. I tried to direct her attention and asked lots of questions but there was just no interest...her eyes just weren't shining like they always are. I started becoming concerned...Is she sick? Is she sad? Is the wheelchair uncomfortable? In the meantime, Sophia, Mack and our friend Matthew were jumping up and down with so much excited about the animals we were seeing. </div><div><br /></div><div>I pulled her aside from the excitement and tried to talk with her. "Grace are you okay? What is wrong?" Her only reply was "Hold me." So I took her out of the wheelchair and she began sobbing. Big tears...big sobs. I was so confused. "I want to go home" she said. I was at a loss. Does she realize how different she is? Does the wheelchair make it that much more evident to her? It was all I could do to not start sobbing myself. I was helpless.</div>Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1889327617090577849.post-85334201786983382052010-06-10T09:01:00.003-05:002010-07-05T15:46:17.000-05:00And From Ambergris CayeIt has been so interesting to me how my perspective on life in general has changed since Grace's <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">CP</span> diagnosis. Our life is not as we imagined. It seems now that I view places and occasions based on accessibility...can Grace do that...can we get her there...how will it work??<br /><br />Abe and I are currently in Belize celebrating our 10 year anniversary...our first trip together since the birth of our triplets. We are staying on a beautiful island and have seen many families with their children. My thoughts of bringing our triplets, specifically Grace, here actually started as we <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">boardeded</span> a very small plane from the main land to the island. How would we get Grace's wheelchair on this plane? Then as we landed, how would Grace do with her walker on the very sandy and bumpy streets?<br /><br />Yesterday we went on our first scuba dive in Belize. I thought of how much Mack would love seeing all the sea creatures he loves to read about about, up close and personal. Then as we <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">donned</span> our scuba gear, I realized that Grace will probably never be able to scuba dive. Will she ever be able to pat a sea turtle?<br /><br />This morning over coffee, I watched a family with 3 kids and listened as they talked about the activities of their day. Will she ever snorkel or <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">kayak</span>? Will Grace ever be able to see Mayan ruins? Will she ever be able to cave tube?<br /><br />Dear God, I prayed, how do I as her mother make sure she get to live to the fullest? Please don't let me fail.Jacolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14966291460929695590noreply@blogger.com7